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Friday, June 05, 2020

My wife Lisa...

...said her final goodbyes to her oldest son Thursday afternoon.

Josh was transported with a brain aneurysm from Clarksville to Skyline Hospital in Nashville by medi-flight Wednesday morning, brain dead, on a respirator and not responding to any stimuli at all.

We were going to have them turn the machines off Thursday afternoon but because Lisa agreed to donate his organs, it wasn't possible. Due to the coordination required between time of death and taking the organs, as well as notifying recipients, the young hospice lady we talked to advised Lisa that it would be best to say her final goodbyes Thursday, and after they have time to make the necessary preparations, they'll turn the machines off Friday and immediately take him into the operating room upon him being pronounced. This very compassionate woman also gave Lisa her word that Josh would not die alone, that she would be there with him holding his hand as he passed and would play some of his favorite songs if Lisa would provide her with them, which was done.
At least this way there would be some good coming from his death. Lives will be saved and maybe other mothers won't have to mourn the deaths of their children.

The entire staff there was absolutely wonderful. I was expecting them to be very business-like and cold - after all, they see this every day - but everybody that came into the room from the counselor to the doctors sat with Lisa and held her. Even the cleaning lady that was emptying the trash cans held Lisa and cried with her.
All of our questions were answered by the young lady that talked to us about the organ donations, with her even providing us with a list of funeral homes that would handle the cremation. She even so far as to give us her personal cell number and told us to call any time, day or night, if we had any questions. She also said she would call when they turned the machines off, then again when Josh passed.

Needless to say, it's been a very emotional and difficult past couple of days. Lisa is just devastated and I'm helpless, unable to take any of her pain from the woman I love and vowed to protect. The only thing I can do is to hold her and be there for her. I'm not an emotional person at all, but I've shed more tears for my wife these past two days than I have the past 40 years combined.
Please keep us in your prayers.

294 comments:

  1. I am very sorry to hear of your terrible loss. You are, of course both in our prayers.

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  2. So very sorry. God bless you both.

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  3. Oh Kenny, what a tragic moment, I grieve for Miss Lisa and you and your family. I will say a prayer for ya'll. I am glad you are there for Miss Lisa, she needs your strength, you are a righteous man.

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  4. There is nothing I can say or do but wish you both well; hopefully there is some comfort in the benefits gifted to the lives of others.

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  5. Damn. So sorry for your loss...ed in wa

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  6. No words..., Just God bless!

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  7. Prayers are with you.

    Best thing Ms. Lisa can have right now is a strong protector keeping the vultures and nasty people away from her.

    Make sure to take some time to chop wood or do something to get the mad out of you. Ms. Lisa needs you as together as you can be right now.

    Damn. Scared me with the header. Glad she is doing.

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  8. Man, I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences.

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  9. I am so very sorry for her and your loss. You and yours will be in me and my family's prayers.

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  10. So sorry for your's and her loss. Just being with her will take much of the burden off her.

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  11. So sorry. You are never supposed to grieve for a child.

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  12. I'm sorry for your loss, Ken.

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  13. OOOOOFFF.
    Gut Punch, hard.
    I will say an extra prayer for Miss Lisa, You, Her recently departed son and the entire family.
    If you need help with the funeral expenses or any damn thing just say the word.
    You also know how to get a hold of me if you need to.
    My sincerest condolences.

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  14. My condolences.
    Prayers lifted up for Lisa and the family.

    Take care, be safe.
    God bless.
    Griz - Alaska

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  15. Kenny:
    God bless you for being there for Lisa.
    Your tears are ok brother.
    Even those of us who've never met you or Lisa are shedding some as well because we know how much it hurts you both.

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  16. Hi Kenny,
    My Prayers are with you and yours......
    skybill

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  17. A very sad story, yet filled with life giving hope.
    I send my heartfelt condolences, and applaud you both.
    God bless you.
    Lofty

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  18. My prayers for you and Lisa. God bless.

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  19. Kenny - I really feel for the loss you and Lisa are going through.
    Even a tough old bugger like me had a few tears rolling down my cheeks after reading this. I dare say I'm not alone here.
    If we, your faithful followers and friends, can help then you let us know eh. We'll help even if you don't ask for any.
    Spend time with Lisa. The blog can wait.

    ZD

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  20. A parent should never have to bury a child. Always so sad. All you can do sir is be there for her and pray for a spirit of peace upon her.

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  21. Condolences and God bless.

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  22. Prenant part à votre douleur, je vous présente mes sincères condoléances, à Lisa et à votre famille. Nous sommes profondément émus par ce deuil qui vous affecte.

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  23. God Bless your family for it's unselfishness. I grieve for your loss.

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  24. That is heart breaking. Parent's shouldn't have to bury their children. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Hang in there. She needs you now more than ever.

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  25. That is a truly heartbreaking story.My condolences to Lisa and yourself.

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  26. Nothing I can write will help but I'm thinking of you. Keep a tight hold of the happy times.

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  27. It's sad to hear this. My condolences to Lisa, you & your family. Y'all in my prayers.

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  28. Please accept my sincere condolences.

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  29. My sincere condolences, you both will be in our prayers.

    MM_454SS

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  30. God bless Miss Lisa, Josh, and you, Kenny. You're in our thoughts and prayers.

    Jim (Gater, OKC)

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  31. Please keep us in your prayers.


    Okay.

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  32. Sorry to hear of your and Lisa's loss. My condolences, Kenny. I'll keep you two in my prayers.
    David

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  33. I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

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  34. Kenny, I'm so sorry to hear this. Please know you and Miss Lisa are in my thoughts.
    My sincerest condolences to her and you.

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  35. Lord, send your love and comfort to these good people. Bless them in these hard times. And welcome Josh into your home this day. God bless you and yours, Ken.

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  36. Lisa and Ken, my prayers are still with you, as are many others, for whatever comfort it brings. Ken, I'm sure Lisa will agree just being there is more than you can know. No parent should bury a child but it happens nonetheless. IMO, the best thing you can do right now as allow yourself to grieve.

    God bless,

    Andy

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  37. Deepest condolences brother. Keeping you in my prayers.

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  38. Lisa take comfort knowing that you gave a life that is about to go forward and save the lives of many. Josh will live on and give his recipients new hope, new meaning, and possibly new life. This makes you both heros! Victor

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  39. Damn, man, you and Lisa have my deepest condolences. May God keep you two enveloped in love and healing during these times.
    Dano

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  40. I'm so sorry for yalls loss, no parent should have to outlive their child

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  41. I am so sorry Ken and Lisa. It is so painful to lose a child but please take solace in knowing Josh lives on in others. My heart breaks for ya'll. You have my email Kenny if ya'll need anything at all.

    Andy

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  42. For what it is worth I cried reading your post.
    Blessings and condolences to both of you.

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  43. No words...only tears. Prayers to you and Lisa.

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  44. My condolences, from the heart. I know it must be especially hard when the need to be physically there, holding his hand is prohibited by this evil disease.
    Again sorry for your loss.

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  45. ..the only thing you can do is hold her. Keep doing that. My condolences to you and your family. I will say a prayer for you.

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  46. Lo, There do I see my Father
    Lo, There do I see my Mother and
    My Brothers and my Sisters
    Lo, There do I see the line of my people back to the beginning
    Lo, They do call to me
    They bid me take my place among them in the halls of Valhalla
    Where thine enemies have been vanquished
    Where the brave shall live Forever
    Nor shall we mourn but rejoice for those that have died the glorious death.

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  47. Man, that sucks. My condolences for both you and your wife. Losing a child has to be one of the most difficult situations in our lives. I have both a son and daughter and know their loss would be devastating.

    My prayers for you and your family. Just being there to lean on is a lot of help Ken. Try and stay strong for the both of you.

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  48. Deepest sympathy. My mother passed this Tuesday, so I know what your going through.

    Just sent a donation your way to help with expenses. Hope others do the same.

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  49. Thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

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  50. There are no words to describe the hell of losing a child. Allow me to offer something I came across which helped me

    I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.

    As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

    In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

    Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.

    Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.


    When we lost my nephew I screamed and demanded God explain His reasons for taking Chris. Never got an answer but we got through it. The scars are deep - you don’t “get over” the loss but you learn how to live with it. Grief is the price we pay for love. Deepest sympathies, my friend

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  51. ......damn it.

    My heartfelt condolences to Lisa and you Ken.

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  52. Words cannot express my sympathies for your family. My wife lost a child ( auto accident ) before we met. The family gathers several times a year on important dates, to remember him. And you’re right, there is nothing one can do besides being there for them.

    Again, my sincere condolences and hoping for better days ahead.

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  53. Stay strong and be a re-assuring presence for your betrothed.

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  54. My condolences to both of you. Glad to know his passing will likely afford others more fulfilling life than they would've had.

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  55. God bless you and your family, praying for you all. Mlb

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  56. You’re doing what needs to be done, be there and hold her. You all are in our thoughts and prayers.

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  57. My deepest sympathies for your tragic loss. Kelly

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  58. Oh Lisa and Ken, I am so very sorry for your pain and your loss. Losing a child must be the cruelest hand this mortal life can deal us. I'll pray for comfort, consolation and strength for you.

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  59. At a loss for words. No parent should outlive their child. As time passes and heals some of the pain, she'll recognize you for being there for her and you guys will have each other for support. That's invaluable right there. Good on you for being there for her. That's not something you hear about as much as you should in this day and age. While I'm not one much for prayer and the like, I'll extend my heartfelt condolences to the two of you and hope you both become stronger because of this tragedy.

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  60. Sir, I have never commented to your blog before but I do read it. If it is possible for my wishes to help in any way, you have them.

    Mike

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  61. Your extended "internet family" have,
    and will continue to pray for you folks.

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  62. I'm sorry for your loss.

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  63. MartinFromGermanyJune 5, 2020 at 6:45 AM

    Dear Ken and Ms Lisa, please accept my sincerest condolences on the grievous loss you and your families have suffered. I trust you will find consolation and spiritual support within the community of your friends and families. I hope that the faith in our resurrection and our eternal life in the arms of Jesus will ease the pain of your loss. You are in my thoughts and my prayers. Your friend Martin

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  64. Condolences on your loss. You and Lisa are in our family's thoughts and prayers.

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  65. waitingForTheStormJune 5, 2020 at 7:05 AM

    There are no words strong enough to comfort that deep a sorrow. Be strong for her and hold her when she needs comfort. There is no medicine like the loving embrace of someone you trust.

    Our prayers to Lisa and to you. The death of someone that close takes a long time to heal.

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  66. My sincere condolences for your loss.

    Nemo

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  67. Prayers of comfort for you and your family my friend.

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  68. "He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

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  69. Sorry to hear Ken and deepest sympathy for Lisa..... No parent should have to suffer the loss of a child no matter the age. My brother Jim died of a massive stroke at age 54. It was the first and only time I saw my father cry unconsolably. Even the death of my mother 2yrs later only brought quiet tears of love and respect.

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  70. So sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prayers are with you both.

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  71. My condolences to you and Lisa Kenny.

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  72. I can't even imagine Kenny. I'm so, so sorry. Will continue prayers for y'all.

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  73. As father, I can't begin to imagine your pain. Words just don't convey it.

    Know that your family will be in our prayers, and may Josh rest in peace in the comfort of The Lord.

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  74. So very sorry, and all the condolences that one can offer through this medium.

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  75. My thoughts and prayers to you and your wife Ken.

    Vermillion

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  76. Linda & I send our prayers and condolences.

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  77. I pray that God comforts you in this time.....sorry to hear this....

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  78. Ken, Be strong brother. Lisa needs this from you now. God bless. Prayers for your family.
    Dale

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  79. I don't care to be told I should be living my life the way anyone thinks I'm *supposed to*, but one of the things I know we're *not supposed to* do in life is bury our children. I can't imagine a harder row to hoe.

    God bless y'all. My love and condolences to you and yours.

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  80. Hardest thing in the world to do, burying a child. Thoughts and prays bro. At least it was quick n painless.

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  81. Being there is all you can do. I'm praying for you two brother.

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  82. I can't possibly understand the pain she's going through. Prayers sent to all involved.

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  83. Lisa and her family as ell as you are in my prayers.

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  84. My thoughts and prayers are with Lisa, you and all of your family and friends at this difficult time. May Josh rest in peace.

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  85. I'm very sorry for your loss. Praying for Lisa, you and your family.

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  86. Kenny and Mizz Lisa, God bless and comfort you. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.

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  87. My thoughts and prayers are with Lisa, you and all of your loved ones at this difficult time. May Josh rest in peace.

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  88. What to say? I'm very sorry Lisa's and your loss. May you both find comfort in the days ahead.
    tallow pot

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  89. We lost our youngest son a year and a half ago and understand what you are going through right now. Please know that we are surrounding you and your family with love, comfort and prayers.

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  90. Men are supposed to fix things, but sometimes we simply cannot. Discovering that realization is a hard hit. You and Lisa are in our prayers.

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  91. May God bless and keep you all through your time of grief.

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  92. Sorry for your loss

    It is hard when the young go first

    May you find some solace that parts of him will live on as donor parts

    Prayers for you and yours

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  93. Keeping you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time.

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  94. So very sorry for your tragic loss Kenny. you and Lisa will surely be in our prayers. God bless.

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  95. Robert the BikerJune 5, 2020 at 8:21 AM

    Right sorry to hear about this, my condolences to you both

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  96. Praying for you both

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  97. I am so very sorry for your loss and can not imagine the sense of grief of losing a son our daughter.

    Both of you are in our thoughts and prayers.

    Ken, you're a good man.

    Wes
    wtdb

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  98. It's no comfort, but his passing will give hope to so many others. I know this for a fact. In his donations of life, he will save many, many lives in the process. Today is the 8th anniversary of my kidney donation. It's never been about me, but it's a proud moment. Everyone involved should be proud of him in his final act...unselfishly giving life for others.
    Be proud in the knowledge, that even in his passing, he's going to live for a very, very long time in others.

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  99. So sorry for the loss of Josh
    My condolences to Lisa, the family and friends
    Rest in Peace
    JD

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  100. You are both in my thoughts, godspeed Josh.

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  101. I am very sorry. Having buried a son, I understand what is for most, unimaginable. Speaking with other moms was one thing that helped me. Perhaps, if and when Lisa would like, we could meet. (We live about 50 miles from you.) I will email our contact information. Robin

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  102. Miss Lisa and Mr. Kenny, my condolences on your loss.

    Spin Drift

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  103. My most sincere condolences.

    -rightwingterrorist

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  104. Prayers to you and Lisa, Kenny.
    CC

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  105. God bless you both, the young man, and all who loved him.

    Pop smoke if there is anything any of us can do, brother.

    ca
    wrsa

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  106. Mr. Ken and Mrs. Lisa

    I am so sorry for your loss.

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  107. So sorry for your loss. A parent's death is hard enough and that's the way things are supposed to go. May God bless you and your family.

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  108. My heart goes out to both of you. While the pain of his passing will fade in its own time;it never truly goes away. For if it did,memory of him would be gone as well.




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  109. All our prayers and sympathy are with you.

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  110. Blessings upon all of you during this time. Losing a child is the hardest thing a parent can go through. Know that being there for Lisa is the most that you can do for her.

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  111. Aw shit Kenny...

    May God walk with you and and Ms Lisa in the places you must go as you carry her through this time until she walk beside you again. Sincere condolences and prayers from my family to yours.

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  112. I'm so sorry Lisa and Ken. That's heartbreaking. My sincerest condolences go out to you. You're in my thoughts and prayers

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  113. Keep on being that pillar of strength for Lisa my brother. My condolences on your loss,

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  114. So sorry for your loss, you're a good man, Kenny...

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  115. Kenny & Lisa, no words I can share will ease your loss but you're both in my prayers for peace and strength.

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  116. Ken, although we haven't met I consider you a friend.
    As a friend, I know that there are no words that are sufficient right now.
    You already know how strong Miss Lisa is, and you'll find the strength to see you and her through this.
    Our best to the two of you.

    Mr. and Mrs. Inbred Redneck

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  117. I'm sorry, I have been there and know the pain, feeling of helplessness and tiredness. Stay strong and focused on what lies ahead.

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  118. Ken, I'm sorry for you and Ms. Lisa. Prayers for both of you and her son. The thought of helping someone else in this may help to alleviate the sorrow over time. I hope so....

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  119. My wife had an aneurysm that the docs were able to surgically correct in time. Scary stuff.

    Sorry for your loss, Kenny. Best wishes to Miss Lisa.

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  120. Ken, I’m so sorry for you and Lisa.

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  121. Sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    Stay strong.
    Chris / Germany

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  122. So sad. A mother should not have to bury her children.

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  123. Bless Miss Lisa and your family. Even more blessings for donating his organs. I recently found out the circumstances of my heart donors deaths and they were very similar to this.

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  124. Thoughts and prayers for both of you at this very difficult time. Stay strong.

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  125. My heart and prayers to you and Miss Lisa.

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  126. Our deepest sympathies and prayers for you all.

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  127. Kenny and Lisa, I can't imagine what it's like to be in your situation. Children are supposed to say goodbye to us when we pass. Ken it sounds like you're being strong for Lisa ... Good Man.

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  128. He's in a better place now. His job is done. Your's is just beginning.

    She made the right choice with the donation. A woman made that same choice with her daughter 18 years ago, and gave me a second chance at life. I've never felt so humbled and thankful.

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  129. My condolences and prayers to Lisa and you

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  130. As I posted on Irish's notification.

    God Bless Ms. lisa and the Lane family.
    You have been a special voice for us all.
    Reading the post and insight you gave into your world, my heart is heavy and yet glad to see so many people understanding and supporting .
    Our prayers are with you all.

    God Bless and Godspeed.

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  131. Your tip-jar link isn't working for me. Paypal just hangs and doesn't pass through the one-touch thing. I went to paypal and shutoff all one=touch devices but still your button goes straight to paypal one touch. When your life settles down maybe you could look into that.

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  132. I've experienced nothing worse in my life than the loss of a child. My condolences to the both of you.

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  133. I don't think I have ever posted here before but I come daily. I am truly sorry to read what has happened, as a parent I can't imagine this loss. Words may not do much in time like these, but please believe me when I say my heart goes out to you and your family.

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  134. My wife also lost a son and it not an easy thing, to not be able to do anything. We always want to fix things for the ones we love, and there is just no fixing this. My prayers for you and your Wife.

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  135. I am so sorry for your loss. May the Lord give you comfort in this time of grief.

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  136. R.I.P. Josh and so sorry for the loss of your son, Lisa. Kenny about the best thing you can do is just be strong for Lisa as she's coming to grips with his passing. And please tell her from me that he's not "gone" he's just passed to another dimension. I did that when I drown back in '78, but the good Lord decided it wasn't time yet and dragged me back into my body. She'll be reunited with him one day. Play this song for her, okay?
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YSui9_IBgao

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  137. Every death is inevitable, but outliving one’s child is tragic and devastating. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

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  138. Ahhhh no parent should have to outlive their child. Please give Lisa my warmest regards, and she will be in my thoughts constantly.

    Kim

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  139. So sad to hear of Lisa's and your loss. My heart and prayers to you both.

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  140. My condolences to Miss Lisa and you. I am so sorry for your loss and I will keep you both in my prayers.

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  141. My deepest sympathies to both of you.

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  142. So very sorry to hear this Kenny, please know that we are praying for you and Lisa and the rest of your family. May Josh live eternally in heaven. God Bless you.

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  143. I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss. I don't know what to say.

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  144. Our prayers are with you & Miss Lisa. May God grant you both comfort in this time of loss.
    AbbyS & Jeff

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  145. Dear God in heaven. Parents should never have to bury their children, that being said you all will be in my prayers. God be with you and your family my friend.

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  146. So sorry for this huge loss, extremely difficult to go through. I know you will give each other the support you both need. God bless you and yours...

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  147. Do not stand at my grave and weep 
    I am not there. I do not sleep. 
    I am a thousand winds that blow. 
    I am the diamond glints on snow. 
    I am the sunlight on ripened grain. 
    I am the gentle autumn rain. 
    When you awaken in the morning's hush 
    I am the swift uplifting rush 
    Of quiet birds in circled flight. 
    I am the soft stars that shine at night. 
    Do not stand at my grave and cry; 
    I am not there. I did not die.

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  148. You and your wife are in our prayers.

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  149. Hugs and prayers for everyone who knew and loved Josh. May y'all find peace in time. That is the roughest mile I ever walked.

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  150. I can't even wrap my brain around the absolute agony she must be feeling. I am truly sorry. God bless your family.

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  151. My deepest condolences to you and Miss Lisa, Kenny.

    I'm at a loss for words, as we all are.

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  152. Deepest condolences to you and Lisa. I am very very sorry for your loss.

    This is "Across the Border" sung by Emmylou Harris and Linda Ronstadt
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_AP8age7rE

    Tonight we'll play the songs
    I'll dream of you my corazón
    And tomorrow my heart will be strong

    And may the saints' blessing and grace
    Carry him safely into His arms
    There across the border

    For what are we
    Without hope in our hearts
    That someday we'll drink from God's blessed waters

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  153. Our deepest sympathies, Kenny.

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  154. Thinking of you and praying for you. It's hard to lose a child. My family knows.

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  155. Prayers and heartfelt sympathy to you and your wife...

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  156. So sorry for your and Lisa's loss and for feelings of helplessness for not being able to make it all okay.

    BTDT.

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  157. So sorry for your and Lisa's loss and for feelings of helplessness for not being able to make it all okay.

    BTDT.

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  158. My families thoughts and prayers are with Lisa, you and all of your loved ones at this difficult time. May Josh rest in peace.
    jack

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  159. My mother died from the same thing at age 40. I never cried at any funeral
    including my grandmother, but I had to take my 9-year-old sister out for
    a drive to tell her that her mom was not going to make it. I cried like a baby.
    Sorry for your loss Kenny.

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  160. I am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing much I can say or do, but I offer up this prayer for you and yours.

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    Heavenly Father,

    Welcome Lisa's son into your presence. Let your light shine upon him and all that he touched. Please hold the family in your hands. Comfort them dear Lord and watch over them that they may get through the ordeal of grief with their faith intact and continue to live within your grace and protection. And that they may continue to be a light to others.

    Amen

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  161. Condolences to both of you. Can't speak from experience, but I have to believe that there is nothing harder, or more unfair, than to outlive a child. Very sorry you folks have to go through this.

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  162. Condolences to you and your wife.

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  163. As a parent, it's unthinkable. Prayers for your family. I am sorry for your loss.

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  164. Lost our 31-year-old son in January 2017. May God Bless and comfort both of you.

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  165. I am so sorry for you loss, Ken. I cannot imagine losing a child. I will pray for Lisa and you.

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  166. May the Grace and Mercy of Our Lord walk with you both.

    Michael in Nelson

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  167. Sorry, man........

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  168. Both you and Lisa are in our thoughts and prayers. Godspeed.

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  169. May God bless you and your family during this terrible time.

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  170. I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine... You are all in my prayers. So very, very sad.

    joe

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  171. Ken, I’m very sorry for your loss. May God bless you both.

    Luke

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  172. No one should ever have to bury their child...

    So sorry.

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  173. Prayers for y'all, and blessings for the donation of the organs. That DOES mean lives saved!

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  174. So sorry Ken and Lisa. Condolences to you all and family.

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  175. So sorry for you loss Ken and Lisa. I cannot even fathom what you are going through, that would be my worst nightmare saying goodbye to one of my sons. I don't comment on here much but I do read the blog every day. You are both in my prayers.

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  176. Condolences to you and Lisa. Very sorry

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  177. God Bless you and your family Kenny. Godspeed.

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  178. My sincere condolences extended to your wife, Lisa & to you on the loss of her son. As a man, we always feel that we have to "fix" a problem or a crisis. That is our nature. Just being there to hold her and listen, is a blessing. Grief is something that takes time. So glad that the people at the hospice were compassionate. Prayers and blessings headed your way. Tom Thompson

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  179. Deepest sympathy to you and Lisa.

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  180. i am so sorry for your loss.

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  181. You have my deepest sympathies for your loss. I will certainly keep your son and both of you in my prayers. I hope that you can find some comfort that he has provided life to others in his passing. That is a hero in my mind. May God bring you both peace and comfort.

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  182. our thoughts and prayers r sent your way today my friend, Godspeed to your family

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  183. So sorry for yours and Lisa's loss. It is gut wrenching to lose a child. The reality is that our generation is the first where losing a child is rare.
    That makes it even harder since there are so few who can empathize with our pain. Most people can only imagine the anguish we feel when given the news about the untimely death of our heir apparent.

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  184. My deep condolences to Ms Lisa. May she find comfort in knowing that her son will save others. And prayers for Brother Kenny. The sharing of this terrible burden weighs on an entire family.

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  185. I am so sorry.
    I do feel it.

    Rudy (Father Confessor)

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  186. Gosh Kenny, I cannot fathom what your family is experiencing but I will pray for you. When we become parents we become a hostage of fate and the situation we most fear is what your family is going through now. Heartfelt Condolences, Redfearn Teal Charlotte NC

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  187. Best I can do is offer a prayer ...
    Q

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  188. I cannot imagine losing my son. You have my deepest sympathies........God Bless.

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  189. Condolences to your Lisa, you and your entire family. My thoughts and prayers are with you wonderful people.

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  190. I am so very sorry. Thinking of you all with prayers.

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  191. God bless you both and prayers for Josh and the family.

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