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Sunday, April 18, 2021

Sunday Video 2


 

26 comments:

  1. He gets it. It doesn't always work but more often than not it will. If more black men had his outlook on raising kids we'd have fewer black men in prison and fewer black women raising multiple crotch monsters from multiple sperm donors.

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  2. Pay attention world, this is a true teacher

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  3. Yes, well I'd say that if more parents - regardless of race - would raise their kids by the same principles we'd also have much less entitled snowflakes pushing their kind of madness to the rest of the world...

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  4. Love this guy! I watched the entire video years ago. She's probably around 10 by now. Dad done right!

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  5. This is very close to "Love and Logic".

    Not much psycho babble interests me - love and logic absolutely hits the nail on the head - and the creators are hilarious with their real life stories.

    Give it to any parent with kids up to 16 yo.

    Worth its weight in gold.

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  6. Outstanding! This is parenting done right. This is the difference between being Daddy and a Baby Daddy.

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  7. The magic number is three. My wife pulled our son out of stores twice when he acted up. We also walked out of a restaurant mid-meal once. Never another problem.

    He's 28, with a college degree, a wonderful wife, and on his sixth year in the Navy.

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  8. I bet he grew up with momma whumping his ass about every day, and it shows and he's passing on what he learned.
    Daryl

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  9. Good video. surprising source but good video.

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  10. Raising Children 101. Nice work.

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  11. Where's the fear of reprisal with no wooping?
    All that does is teach her to be a better actress and pick a softer target

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    1. The reprisal was being taken away from Mom and brought out to the boring parking lot. The reward for calming down is getting to go back in with Mom.
      If she learns to **act** calm and adult, no matter how frustrated she is about not getting to pick out candy or a toy or whatever she was bitching about before, that's a plus, not a minus. As for picking softer targets, we all figure that part out sooner or later. I don't see any negatives here. This dad has his shit together, my hat is off.

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  12. This man should be giving lessons on parenting.

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    1. Go to the 1:40 mark in the video. That man has had lessons in parenting, from his own dad. He had a father in his life and it shows. Big time. Good or bad, it gets handed down from one generation to the next.

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  13. Nice job. If mine got real bad he'd lose everything in his room. He didn't like that. And if that didn't work mom would drive us about five miles out of town and we'd walk back together and talk about his shitty behaviour. By the time he got home to a bedroom with nothing but a mattress in it and his feet were good and tired we'd have had a good chat. He'd b a different kid afterward. He's an adult now (20), and about to become my business partner. One of the brightest most decent human beings I know. He makes me proud.

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  14. Congratulations,sir. BE. THE.DAD.

    No other job, that you will ever have, will be as important.

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  15. I work with a young black man just about like that. Smart as a whip, a true professional at his trade and an awesome father to their children. That's the reason he's my go to guy when things are serious.

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  16. What happened to the "hell yes" button?

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  17. Children and dogs. Bring them up the same way. Be fair, be consistent, praise when due.
    Never let them get their way and never lose your temper.

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  18. Parenting done right, I am duly impressed with this guy. I know why children act out - it's the parents who are at fault. They don't discipline in the correct way like the guy in the video did.

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  19. That little girl is so cute I can see how she might be a bit spoiled. Good dad.

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  20. I always told my wife: find what they like and take it away and make it clear that the action is a consequence of their misbehavior. If done early, consistently, and in proportion to the offense, it can work wonders.

    When they were in their early teens, I did the road warrior consultant thing for a while. The second week, my wife called bawling her eyes out because the boys were trying to take advantage of the fact that I was gone. I told her: tell the boys we are going to go to lunch next Saturday and that they would not like the experience.

    We chose their favorite restaurant, Fuddruckers. I found an out of the way table and we ate. Then I told them that I was disappointed in their actions and I clearly laid out, in clear words and with no anger, the expectations for their future behavior. I used the :repeat it until it was clear" technique I was so known for.

    The next week, my wife called me and I could hear the wonder in her voice. What did I say to them? They were models of proper behavior, showing the respect and deference that was appropriate. I explained that I simply laid out my expectations. We never has a like problem.

    On an aside, once she said she asked the boys why they obeyed me immediately and she had to cajole them to act sometimes. The younger boy said: He will hit us. Oddly enough, I only used physical force once, and that was a light pop on the butt, and only when they were too young to reason. It set the course for a long and productive relationship.

    Sorry for the long tirade, but it one of the things I am most proud of: producing two productive, well behaved, and useful members of society who each contribute more than they take.

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