It is getting harder for good people to find compatible companionship in this day and age. Especially for young people who are looking for a mate. You cannot always find the match that you were looking for. But you don’t always need to.
Loneless is a sreious bitch, but I finally found happiness at 80. It's expensive but go to a high class whore house, fuck the left side of the menu and afterwards drink till you pass out.
Interaction has become so distant these days that my "friends" are often total strangers on the internet that I simply chat with regularly. Although we do have mutual interests, plants, artwork, etc. If I find someone then she will likely be into plants or art. People are a crapshoot of imperfections.
I didn't watch the 20 minute video of the guy talking... I do know something about being alone... and not. Talk to anyone and everyone, people by you in the check out line at the store, some stranger sitting around a campfire, people at church, just talk with them. Close your eyes (so to speak) and listen, maybe you'll find someone who you like being with? Maybe they will like being with you? At that point you're well on the road to not being alone. There is a lot to be said for not being alone... If looks are really more important than anything else go re-read bogsidebunny's advice.
I was alone in my fifties for about six years. I invite no one to my house but my kid showed up a couple times a year. She always called first. I had no friends by choice, still don't, belonged to no organiztions, still don't. I was back in the woods and loved my time alone. Then one day I bumped into this gal and next thing ya know we're married and still together. I truley enjoy being with her. I hope I go first but if not I know I'll never hook up again. I'm one of those the third times the charm.
Call me jaded & cynical, but I would much rather be alone than: Being married to someone who despises & loathes me, always bitching, never happy ("Happy wife, happy life" is self-deluding bullshit.); Going through a rollercoaster divorce, losing half of the assets that I earned (no pussy is worth half your assets), in addition, probably paying alimony, child support (are you SURE the kids are YOURS?), having to leave your house that you paid for, then her selling it at a clear profit because "There are too many bad memories boo hoo", etc., etc., you've heard it all before. No thank you so VERY much!
I had a medical issue several years ago after (gratefully) losing my ex-wife. I was told that I needed to take stock of myself and determine what values I needed to look for in a future mate. I finally took that advise to heart and searched online for a potential partner, because as an introvert I knew I wouldn't find such a lady in person.
I can honestly say that I found exactly the person I was looking for (about a 1:1,000,000,000 chance, seriously). I knew after three days that she was the one for me, but didn't propose until 8 days later. We've been married five years and neither of us could ask for a better situation!
Blow up the cell phone towers and get rid of the liberal Femocrat daddy state and Male loneliness issues will come to a screeching halt. By daddy state I also mean the make work government welfare system that comes with an actual job so the "equal" Women can claim they are independent too. Nothing else that guy said means a lick it isn't men who are choosing to be alone it is the women choosing it for them.
I've always been superficially social but have a hard time getting close to people. Those few guys that I really considered friends come from my childhood and high school. with 1 exception they all died at around age 65. The one guy left, I just reconnected with and he has moved to Colorado( and has gotten real vegetarian, anti gun, left wing). My wife is good for me. Have to admit, until we actually started to live together after we were married I didnt realize that she's a bit ditzy and a chatter box, so I encourage her to go down state and visit the grand kids ever so often and me and the dog are fine for a couple days.
I am a bit of an extrovert and a homebody and I never feel lonely. With Covid, I was quarantined for about a year and was quite happy with my company, just the wife. :P
I was always fine with being alone. After I closed my business in 2001, I could work weeks in my studio, barely coming up for air & totally satisfied, maybe a date here and there. Always had the company of dogs, still do, got a real demon seed now. Anyway, I hooked up with an old flame 2 years ago, ended up moving to WA(she's not in good health) and man we like Snoopy kicking his feet in the air. I feel very lucky except I'm in WA and not AR.
I did not find a steady companion until I was in my early 30s and we were together for over 25 years, married about half that, until she passed 8 years ago from lung cancer. I went from being a single happy guy with lots of friends to living in a household with my future wife, her two daughters and eventually their SOs and two boys each. WOW what a change! Before we were married, I used to joke with my wife that we did not know each other as we had never been alone together, and I was not living the same lifestyle I was when we first met. The time together was memorable, I would not trade it for anything and I had a loving family around all the time. After she passed, I knew the family would fracture, but I was surprised at how quick and severe it happened. My one stepdaughter and her family have lived next door for about 15+ years, but they rarely visit or invite me over. The same goes for the other daughter and my now grown grandchildren. It was really rough at first, especially the first couple of holidays during the plague lockdown. My first few holidays waking up alone when the previous ones were full of joy, kids, and memories. There have been times when I wish I had passed instead of her. I have grown used to the fact that I am back to that single lifestyle, but as with so many others, the number of friends in my life is few and most are actually acquaintances. My best friend from childhood is on the other side of the political and other spectrums from me and he has had a couple of strokes, so we don't go golfing, fishing, or other activities anymore. I am looking for another mate, but not really working it and if it happens, it happens.
Loneliness? What is this 'loneliness' of which you speak?
I tell anyone who asks, I am always in the best of company, quite by myself. Friends and lovers will come and go. I enjoy them at my leisure. But there is only one person I will always wake up with, and that is me. I am good with that.
Loneless is a sreious bitch, but I finally found happiness at 80. It's expensive but go to a high class whore house, fuck the left side of the menu and afterwards drink till you pass out.
ReplyDeleteThose rads from the nuke plant across the salt marsh from you have finally fried your brain. ;-))
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Interaction has become so distant these days that my "friends" are often total strangers on the internet that I simply chat with regularly. Although we do have mutual interests, plants, artwork, etc. If I find someone then she will likely be into plants or art. People are a crapshoot of imperfections.
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A big difference between being alone and being lonely.
ReplyDeleteI didn't watch the 20 minute video of the guy talking... I do know something about being alone... and not.
ReplyDeleteTalk to anyone and everyone, people by you in the check out line at the store, some stranger sitting around a campfire, people at church, just talk with them. Close your eyes (so to speak) and listen, maybe you'll find someone who you like being with? Maybe they will like being with you?
At that point you're well on the road to not being alone. There is a lot to be said for not being alone...
If looks are really more important than anything else go re-read bogsidebunny's advice.
I don’t know if I’m just a weirdo, but being alone doesn’t bother me.
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I was alone in my fifties for about six years. I invite no one to my house but my kid showed up a couple times a year. She always called first. I had no friends by choice, still don't, belonged to no organiztions, still don't. I was back in the woods and loved my time alone. Then one day I bumped into this gal and next thing ya know we're married and still together. I truley enjoy being with her. I hope I go first but if not I know I'll never hook up again. I'm one of those the third times the charm.
ReplyDeleteCall me jaded & cynical, but I would much rather be alone than:
ReplyDeleteBeing married to someone who despises & loathes me, always bitching, never happy
("Happy wife, happy life" is self-deluding bullshit.);
Going through a rollercoaster divorce, losing half of the assets that I earned (no pussy is worth half your assets), in addition, probably paying alimony, child support (are you SURE the kids are YOURS?), having to leave your house that you paid for, then her selling it at a clear profit because "There are too many bad memories boo hoo", etc., etc., you've heard it all before.
No thank you so VERY much!
This. Exactly. Fuck marriage. Right now...in a cabin, with woodstove crackling, and peaceful silence. Would not change it for anything.
DeleteHow did you get inside my head?
DeleteI had a medical issue several years ago after (gratefully) losing my ex-wife. I was told that I needed to take stock of myself and determine what values I needed to look for in a future mate. I finally took that advise to heart and searched online for a potential partner, because as an introvert I knew I wouldn't find such a lady in person.
ReplyDeleteI can honestly say that I found exactly the person I was looking for (about a 1:1,000,000,000 chance, seriously). I knew after three days that she was the one for me, but didn't propose until 8 days later. We've been married five years and neither of us could ask for a better situation!
Congratulations to the both of you!
DeleteThank you, sir! That means a lit coming from you!
DeleteBlow up the cell phone towers and get rid of the liberal Femocrat daddy state and Male loneliness issues will come to a screeching halt. By daddy state I also mean the make work government welfare system that comes with an actual job so the "equal" Women can claim they are independent too. Nothing else that guy said means a lick it isn't men who are choosing to be alone it is the women choosing it for them.
ReplyDeleteBottle of ripple, a hooker and a good dog to play fetch worked for me.
ReplyDeleteI've always been superficially social but have a hard time getting close to people. Those few guys that I really considered friends come from my childhood and high school. with 1 exception they all died at around age 65. The one guy left, I just reconnected with and he has moved to Colorado( and has gotten real vegetarian, anti gun, left wing). My wife is good for me. Have to admit, until we actually started to live together after we were married I didnt realize that she's a bit ditzy and a chatter box, so I encourage her to go down state and visit the grand kids ever so often and me and the dog are fine for a couple days.
ReplyDeleteI fucking hate people, so loneliness has never been a problem with me.
ReplyDeleteYou and I have a lot in common. We should hang out some time.
DeleteI am a bit of an extrovert and a homebody and I never feel lonely. With Covid, I was quarantined for about a year and was quite happy with my company, just the wife. :P
ReplyDeleteI was never in my life lonely. I did get lucky though.
ReplyDeleteI was always fine with being alone. After I closed my business in 2001, I could work weeks in my studio, barely coming up for air & totally satisfied, maybe a date here and there. Always had the company of dogs, still do, got a real demon seed now. Anyway, I hooked up with an old flame 2 years ago, ended up moving to WA(she's not in good health) and man we like Snoopy kicking his feet in the air. I feel very lucky except I'm in WA and not AR.
ReplyDeleteI did not find a steady companion until I was in my early 30s and we were together for over 25 years, married about half that, until she passed 8 years ago from lung cancer.
ReplyDeleteI went from being a single happy guy with lots of friends to living in a household with my future wife, her two daughters and eventually their SOs and two boys each. WOW what a change!
Before we were married, I used to joke with my wife that we did not know each other as we had never been alone together, and I was not living the same lifestyle I was when we first met.
The time together was memorable, I would not trade it for anything and I had a loving family around all the time.
After she passed, I knew the family would fracture, but I was surprised at how quick and severe it happened.
My one stepdaughter and her family have lived next door for about 15+ years, but they rarely visit or invite me over. The same goes for the other daughter and my now grown grandchildren.
It was really rough at first, especially the first couple of holidays during the plague lockdown. My first few holidays waking up alone when the previous ones were full of joy, kids, and memories. There have been times when I wish I had passed instead of her.
I have grown used to the fact that I am back to that single lifestyle, but as with so many others, the number of friends in my life is few and most are actually acquaintances.
My best friend from childhood is on the other side of the political and other spectrums from me and he has had a couple of strokes, so we don't go golfing, fishing, or other activities anymore.
I am looking for another mate, but not really working it and if it happens, it happens.
Loneliness? What is this 'loneliness' of which you speak?
ReplyDeleteI tell anyone who asks, I am always in the best of company, quite by myself. Friends and lovers will come and go. I enjoy them at my leisure. But there is only one person I will always wake up with, and that is me. I am good with that.