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Police said the two were previously in a relationship.
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I've been in a fair amount of relationships in my 63 years, most of them when I was in my 20s and a couple short ones in my late 40s after I divorced my first wife. Some of the break-ups were on me, some on the woman, and a couple just on circumstances.
Not once did I ever consider violence over it, not as a fantasy and for sure not as a plan. The thought never even entered my mind, even when I was going through my divorce, as ugly as it got. I just wanted it to be done and over with so I could move on.
Ho Hum, just another "too late for anger management classes" story.
ReplyDeleteMy first divorce was right crazy. The ex caused it all, not me. The second I gave the wife the divorce papers. She edited them wanting more. My attorney said no way. I said give it to her. He said you crazy. I said on the contrary. I've been through one divorce so just give her what she wants. I don't want this drug out. I want it over with quickly. We divorced on her terms. I took a hit worth every penny. I saw her twice after the divorce and the second time she was seeking reconciliation. I am proud that I did not laugh but told her no. I haven't seen or heard from her in probably thirty years. No idea nor do I care what happened to her.
ReplyDeleteOver 30 years married, she cheated on me, I offered reconciliation, she cheated again. I was seeing a counselor and on anti-anxiety and antidepressants.
ReplyDeleteI sat for an hour with the gunsafe keys in my hand debating whether to head over to his place and shoot them both. I didn't do it; I filed for divorce instead, and lost literally a half million dollars.
So I can't say I never thought of it. I can say, however, that I'm clearly no murderer.
I just have to keep reminding myself "The bitch ain't worth the jail time."
DeleteI have found that moving 5 or more states away from my ex to be a big help.
ReplyDeleteand have/keep a unlisted phone number too. even with all of that, she showed up on my door step one Friday night. wanting to "work it out" bullshit. I had the kids as she found the joy of nose candy that lead to the divorce in the first place.
after a weekend of drama. called out of work on Monday and went to the bank. pull out some cash and drove her to the airport. put her on the first non stop flight back to where she was. stayed to watch the plane leave and went home.
my dad said I should have put her on a bus. I told him, you can get off a bus. you can get off a train. but there no way in hell she getting off a non stop plane !
that was over 30 years ago now. life has been okay since.
Never cared enough to get violent over 'an ex'. I have had to defend myself a time or two...
ReplyDeletecrazy drunken strippers are like that sometimes. an cajun women too.
I drove past the scene on the way to work. Must have just happened as there were only two cops there yet. The full size SUV was crossways on the two west bound lanes with all the doors open. I just thought the 'perps' had bailed and run for it and wanted to block pursuit.
ReplyDeleteFound out what happened about an hour later on the radio. That Chik Fil A is about a mile from my house. So very sad.