There is a prevalent philosophy today that says for a man to succeed he has to live without regret. There are inherent dangers in this approach to life, and we discussed those dangers in this particular video.
Regret, remorse, painful to experience. That is what affects decisions going forward. If someone refuses to feel wrong, they are unreachable and unteachable. It would have been Nice to have lived a life that didn't show me the results of bad decision making.. Because I didn't screw up..
As usual Dwayne's message is kinda convoluted... We are all a little messed up so we have to fix yourself to be what we need to be, whatever that is, before we can be a use to ourselves or anyone else.... If that requires us to back off from things or people to fix ourselves then do it with the understanding as men we still need take care of our business...... I don't believe in internet trainers, Dwayne is an internet trainer so keep that in mind as he bashes the idea, so I can't speak on them and their effectiveness... I suppose all I want to say is if his message resonates with you carry on, if not that's fine there are more ways to move forward with your life than what is said in the video.. Good luck JD
I have my share and those are what helped me grow and become the person I am today. Part of life. And if a person claims to not have any, the are probably a - Sociopath.
I've watched a lot of Dwayne's videos and find his perspective refreshing. It took him a bit longer than usual to get to the heart of the message this time and on some things I believe he was a bit off. But I'm not going try to pick holes in his dissertation. Mostly because he's at least on the right track. Which is better than a lot of people these days.
The truth is, we all have to find our own way to deal with the trauma of being a cognizant being in a terribly, chaotic, confusing, conflicted world. We all have to shoulder the burdens that belong to us and shed those that don't. Carry our own load and not the ones others want you to carry for them. Letting others blame you for their regrets is as equally bad as ignoring our own.
The complicated part is sorting out what is ours and what isn't. It's not always easy. Best advice I can offer is "remember to think, but don't overthink."
Oh, and I have to try real hard to not follow Dwayne's guidance on cigars. Gave up tobacco years back, but do get the hankering for a cigar from time to time. Given my compulsive personality, if I give in there'll soon be a humidor in the house...
Let me add that I believe we should "TRY to live life without regret." Carrying them to our graves like an increasingly overloaded pack animal serves no purpose. Accept when we've screwed up and learn to forgive ourselves for those mistakes. And use that knowledge to do better next time.
What a load of rubbish, to live is to have regrets
ReplyDeleteDwayne always has great advice. Hybo
ReplyDeleteSociopaths have no regrets. Maybe some irritating disappointments, but no regrets
ReplyDeleteRegret, remorse, painful to experience. That is what affects decisions going forward. If someone refuses to feel wrong, they are unreachable and unteachable.
ReplyDeleteIt would have been Nice to have lived a life that didn't show me the results of bad decision making.. Because I didn't screw up..
Regret? Isn't that some type of French bird?
ReplyDeleteHaving regrets isn't a bad thing. Dwelling on them to the point of becoming depressed is the problem many people have.
ReplyDeleteAs usual Dwayne's message is kinda convoluted...
ReplyDeleteWe are all a little messed up so we have to fix yourself to be what we need to be, whatever that is, before we can be a use to ourselves or anyone else.... If that requires us to back off from things or people to fix ourselves then do it with the understanding as men we still need take care of our business...... I don't believe in internet trainers, Dwayne is an internet trainer so keep that in mind as he bashes the idea, so I can't speak on them and their effectiveness... I suppose all I want to say is if his message resonates with you carry on, if not that's fine there are more ways to move forward with your life than what is said in the video..
Good luck
JD
I have my share and those are what helped me grow and become the person I am today. Part of life. And if a person claims to not have any, the are probably a - Sociopath.
ReplyDeleteI've had some regerts!
ReplyDeleteChutes Magoo
The only regret that a person should have is the stuff that they did ... and certainly not have any regrets for not doing something. Just do it!!!
ReplyDeleteThe only thing that remorse is good for is wallowing in it.
I've watched a lot of Dwayne's videos and find his perspective refreshing. It took him a bit longer than usual to get to the heart of the message this time and on some things I believe he was a bit off. But I'm not going try to pick holes in his dissertation. Mostly because he's at least on the right track. Which is better than a lot of people these days.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is, we all have to find our own way to deal with the trauma of being a cognizant being in a terribly, chaotic, confusing, conflicted world. We all have to shoulder the burdens that belong to us and shed those that don't. Carry our own load and not the ones others want you to carry for them. Letting others blame you for their regrets is as equally bad as ignoring our own.
The complicated part is sorting out what is ours and what isn't. It's not always easy. Best advice I can offer is "remember to think, but don't overthink."
Oh, and I have to try real hard to not follow Dwayne's guidance on cigars. Gave up tobacco years back, but do get the hankering for a cigar from time to time. Given my compulsive personality, if I give in there'll soon be a humidor in the house...
Let me add that I believe we should "TRY to live life without regret." Carrying them to our graves like an increasingly overloaded pack animal serves no purpose. Accept when we've screwed up and learn to forgive ourselves for those mistakes. And use that knowledge to do better next time.
DeleteLive and learn, right?
For me to operate aligning with Someone Else's grasp of
DeleteWhat I SHOULD Do
as my guiding force
Just isn't going to work out.
No regerts
ReplyDeleteYou mean like those "No Regerts" tattoos?
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