A Maine woman decided to take one last shot at her allegedly abusive mother after her death by writing a brutally candid obituary.
Following the passing of Florence 'Flo' Harrelson, 65, in February, her estranged daughter Christina Novak said she wrote the obituary after only finding out this month that her mother had passed.
'(Harrelson) died without family by her side due to burnt bridges and a wake of destruction left in her path,' Novak wrote on the obituary, published in the Kennebec Journal and Morning Sentinel.
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Piss off everybody and then die with no obituary, no funeral, and leaving everybody wondering.
Personally, I wouldn't care one way or another if my blood family is notified of my death. Once I moved from California to Tennessee, I became a non-person. The only one of my relatives that has contacted me was my uncle to let me know my cousin had died. Other than that, not a single one of them has reached out to me for anything, so yeah, let 'em wonder.
Don't get me wrong, there's no hard feelings as far as I know, but I got tired of being the only one to make an effort.
Some are better left alone, grant them that..... This woman is as bad as her mother because she did this for her, just like mom
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Next month will be a year since I talked to my brother and he lives 15 miles away. The most incredibly negative person you ever met, physically nauseating.
ReplyDeleteMirror the behavior you are shown. Take the initiative, but if it's not reciprocated after a few tries, you have your answer. Social interactions are a positive feedback loop; good ones get better, bad ones get worse. You can't choose your relatives, but you can manage the relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis is some prime wisdom, well stated. Thank you for sharing what I have had trouble articulating.
DeleteMy aunt's headstone reads "Loving wife of 46 years to cheating husband Travis V McClinton"
ReplyDeleteJust got home from the funeral of someone who had been a friend for 22 years. He was a fellow know for his ornery sense of humor instant smile and his willingness to help people in trouble. Dave suffered a stroke 14 months ago and was in a care facility in Kansas City when he passed.
ReplyDeleteThe stories told today ran the full spectrum of funny, crazy and encouraging. Definitely not like Flo, Dave will be missed by many.
Have not heard from my mother in 10 years. My life has been much less stressful since then. Sometimes you have to cut the destructive ones out of your life. But the obit was a going too far, she's dead and can't defend herself
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yeah, that is why I live in the woods of pa. very few even know where or have the phone number here. my kids included . got real tired of them thinking I am some sort of ATM for when they fuck up. which is way too often. as for my brothers and sisters who just happen to think that anything I have is also theirs . one time, I got a great deal on a little Toyota. my sister thought I SHOULD give it to her kid in high school who wanted a car ???
ReplyDeleteand then after that bullshit, my sister who married a real loser, wanted me to give her the car ? no one said anything about the 4 grand I sent getting it and maybe I wanted the damn car . yeah.. dave in pa.
fits the commie op. order - "what's mine is mine, what's yours is mine too" _ _ and the horse they rode in on. I am full prepared that if the SHTF and they show up, to ask two questions; 1) if they noticed a Motel 6 or Walmart sign as they trespassed in, and 2) as Connor MacManus said, "Are you right with your Jesus?".
DeleteI hear ya Dave. I got tired of all the BS by my gossiping, dysfunctional, etc., dysfunctional siblings years ago. Tired of being an ATM for my kids also. There's a lack of gratitude and how much of a sacrifice money represents. Check out this link. I recognized myself and it may be you. Or it may be all of us here as we grow older.
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I was estranged from my highly dysfunctional family for decades. Now that we're all older more opportunities are coming up for us to get together. Only once a year or so, but that's way more than before.
ReplyDeleteWe ain't the Waltons (sorry John-Boy). The interactions are sometimes tense as we get to know each other again, but overall we come from the same place, and surprisingly it seems to work.
My brother is coming into town next week for a few days. I'm sure at least one of us will escape alive. But no one will leave unscathed. ;-)
I signed up for the military at seventeen and was sworn shortly after turning eighteen. Came home from Nam and moved around five hundred miles from family. I've little to do with any of them. Course I have little to do with anybody.
ReplyDeleteI would rather die in Tennessee than live in California. I have removed a lot of people from my life and am happier for it. Mostly people that bring me down or always want something. I have tools but I am not one.
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pleasing everybody is hard and takes a lot of time and effort
ReplyDeletepissing everybody off??? easy peasy, takes no time and little effort.
I have not seen my twin brother in at least 4 years. He treated me like crap growing up, and I am now able to avoid toxic people.
ReplyDeleteThat obituary is spot on for my sister. She has toddler granddaughters that I have seen more than she has. She lives 15 minutes from them and I am 5 hours away.
ReplyDeleteMost of my "relatives" live in California. I have attempted to keep in contact but they haven't. Must be something in the water.
ReplyDeleteI read this somewhere:
ReplyDelete"Some times you just have to be done. Not mad, not upset. Just done."
Ahh family.....I got closer friends that I would die for than a few of my siblings! I have wonderful grown kids......well one still struggles with issues but seems ok.....I turned of the money spicket!
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I have been in Idaho for 37 years now. It has been 9 years Since I have visited the family or large extended family . The longer I stayed in Idaho , the more apparent it became it was them and not me . The phone works both ways . I keep in contact with a select few. Lots of high school friends and I have reconnected via the inter-tubes . I was a handful in my younger years , and admit I am still the one that "asks too many questions and talks too much." <-----Translate that to difficult to guilt trip and manipulate . I call my mother often . She is in the throes of dementia and seems much happier now compared to five years ago. A few cousins still speak to me and check in . I do reciprocate gleefully ! New married in younger family members would ask me if stories about me were true from the younger years . I would look them dead in the eye , and tell them not really , your wife/husband minimized a lot to make me look better ! My family is in Idaho. I will probably die in Idaho.
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